Body Soiree

A Client asked me how is it that the weight he gained just 'sneaked' up on him? I said it didn't, though it will feel like it. I told him he wasn't paying attention, he allowed himself to get lost in the shuffle of life. That fat will roll (excuse the pun!) up on you like a thief in the night and you will go from size 8 to 20 without blinking, I am talking from experience here. We all get caught up in the everyday of it, the IT being life and we will create all manner of reasons to not take control of our self-destructive behaviors, am I right? I have heard most of the excuse's, from my feet hurt from work( they just might), to my children won't let me!? Really? Who is in charge here? Did you just throw your children under the bus? Excuse's aren't needed; Life happens and sometimes getting overweight and unhealthy happens with it, but don't despair, there is a fix. It isn't a quick fix, an easy fix or a magic pill. This requires that you pay atte...

"Learn to love yourself, so that you may focus on loving another." Anon I love a good quote and this is one of many that I love. Why? It is so true. How many of us, man or woman, have tried and failed at relationships because we had no self-love? my hand is up and waving! If you think about it, it makes perfect sense, we just don't like to own it. I also dislike the fact that my mother used to say this to me a lot "If you can't love yourself, you can't love anyone else." Quote, end quote. Okay, so she was right..kinda. I know what you are saying, " I have loved plenty of people and maybe not have cared for myself all that much" and I will agree, so did I, but did it last? I can only speak for myself, no, none of the relationship's lasted, because I didn't have a good relationship with me. The key word in the quote above is Focus. We, as women, tend to focus more on others: children, men, job, education, etc. than ourselves. Everythin...

Have you ever had one of those weeks where you really have to ask: What the heck was going on?!  I wish I could say it was everyone else that had gone a little bonkers, but it was me as well, I can't lie to you.  It started out with me being locked in a cage, in the basement of my place of work. Yes, locked in a CAGE! I won't go deep into how it happened( because it makes me look really dumb and you don't need that thought in your head) but I will say this: I built a mountain of crates to get over the cage wall and as I went to swing one leg over... My Vagina spoke to me! In a faint, but clear voice, I heard: "Do you not see how narrow that ledge is my dear? Are you really going to straddle that? Let's take a moment Dawn dear to think about this and the pain that will be there after your balancing act." How did I get out? I screamed until another Trainer heard me. I will never live this one down. Twice this past week I have been blocked by cars on train tracks...

As anyone that knows me knows; I love happiness. I go out of my way to be happy and I try and only bring happiness to others. There are some people that say they do, but then go out of their way to be miserable, I am not that person. I really do choose happiness, well most days I do. Like any normal human there are days that I am not feeling It. Meaning: I am not feeling happy and I choose not to be happy. I am kind of enjoying being a grouch and talking smack to myself.  On these days I also choose not to be around happy people, you will find that they will get on your nerves quick with all of their happy talk and attitude! Who do they think they are anyway? On days like this I choose to watch "Reality" television and all of the other fecal matter that is on t.v and there is a lot of crap to choose from. On days like this I choose not to exercise. Because exercise makes you feel good AND happy; can't have that! After the bad t.v and no exercise regime, I usually have rea...

I love my town, I really do. It has a bad reputation and I truly believe it does just because there are a lot of ethnic people that live here. It is a suburban town that sits perfectly between two lovely cities; Chicago and Milwaukee. My town is like most small cities, high to low income, issues with the school district and the politics that surround everything; but, I love my town. I love walking down the street and seeing people working in their gardens. On one side of the street their is a man and woman working in the yard, and he has on a kilt, a Led Zeppelin t-shirt and sneakers. On the other side of the street there is a Black man wearing karate pants and a rice paddy hat! Really? All I can do is giggle as I watch the Vatos locos in their low riders, am I back in California? They give me the peace sign and I nod my head in acknowledgment and we both keep movin'. When you live in a town of different ethnic groups, there is always the lovely food to try. I can walk down th...

Besides me trying to be the most positive person EVER ! I have really been working on forgiveness. Oh Yes, the F-word.  Holy Crap! it's hard.  I read a book that requests that you list all of the people that have crossed you, every last one , then write how they have wronged you. You will be amazed at how long this list can get. Then, when you have done all of this, here is the kicker: YOU MUST FORGIVE THEM! Incredibly difficult and mind blowing. Why? Because as you are writing all of this stuff down, you start to notice a pattern in your behavior and in your interactions with other people. If you are willing to recognize it for what it is, great change can happen for you! There can be no excuses, because the Truth will be staring you right in the face, all in black and white. The questions I started asking myself, once I noticed my patterns were: 1. Why did I attract these particular people into my life( Family we can do absolutely nothing about.. sorry!)?  2. Why did I ...

This is a true story. Names have been changed to protect the innocent... and the not so innocent.  On Mothers Day I received a text from someone I used to date. Not anything special, just a "Have a happy Mother's Day" and wishing me well.  I didn't think much of it, until I started getting responses from unidentified numbers.  I just assumed that these women were relatives of his. No problem. Two days later, I receive a text from an unidentified number, again! Asking the question " Are you at work?" by the "tone" I knew this was an intimate question and I most certainly knew it wasn't meant for me. The response, when it came, was "Yeah, what's going on?" Sounds innocent enough, right? Well obviously by all of the irate responses to this most innocent text, a lot of the ladies on that thread from Mothers Day didn't think so! Mr. "think things through" Mr. TTT for short, had created and sent a text thread to all of his...