Body Soiree

"A Man never knows how to say goodbye; a Woman never knows when to say it." My Mama always said that "Women know when we know." And I would ask "Know what?" and she would respond with "Everything." I didn't understand then. I didn't understand a woman's intuition, long-suffering or staying power. The time and love investments we make is phenomenal. Sometimes to our own detriment no doubt. But guilt and regret are wasteful emotions, so we won't go there. I want to focus on our ability as women, my apologies, upper case W please! Our ability as Women to hold it together when the house is burning down around our ears. I want to talk about how we will stay, even when we knew we should have left years ago and threw all manner of red flags out there, and tried to "fix" broken relationships. I want to talk about how we will laugh when we really want to throw ourselves on the floor and have an old-fashioned crying fit. But we...

In the present environment with all of the sexual harassment and sexual assault cases flying about, I decided to write this. Some people would say that sexual harassment is the same for all. It isn't! But after reading or listening to some of these stories; the one thing most of us do have in common is the silence after we have been harassed/assaulted. I remember being hemmed up in a stairwell, fighting this "man" who was bound and determined to rip my pants off. A co-worker he was married with children. We both worked third shift. I was on break and decided to take the stairs that led downstairs to the vending machines. He followed. Anyone who has ever had to fight to not be assaulted knows the terror and adrenaline that is running through your body when this happens. Fight or flight has totally kicked in, and you are incredulous that it is happening to you. Since that long ago time I have been accosted either verbally or physically again and again. I use to ask myself ...

As a Personal Trainer and fellow Human Being, I tend to wonder about the mental state of people. Look! I get it! Everyone wants the "hot and perfect" body(as if that exists) but what I don't get is subjecting our children to these crazy, unrealistic expectations.  Why are parents hiring Personal Trainers for their pre-teens? Nine and ten year old children with Trainers? Really!? Unless they are some type of sports prodigy; I don't get it. Shouldn't outside be their gym? Whatever happened to playing outside? or if it is too cold, playing INSIDE!? When did this become passe'? I actually heard a group of twelve year old's and I knew they were twelve by the class they were in, discussing how they try not to eat carbohydrates! At twelve I didn't know what a carb was. I knew meat, vegetables, fruit, rice and potatoes, I didn't even know those were starches! Now where did those children learn this? The Parent(s)! Body Dysmorphia and myths regarding food a...