Body Soiree

  "It's not about the weight... I said this to a client once and got cursed out.  Now mind you, I don't usually take it personally when people go off on me. Not that it happens often. (Thank goodness!)  But I know, for the most part, it has nothing to do with me. They are venting, so vent.  But weight, like religion and politics, is a very personal conversation. Most people avoid talking about it. Most people also don't want to hear your opinion.  Talking about weight and weight management is my business. You might be asking yourself "Why would someone hire a Personal Trainer and then curse them out for talking about weight -loss?" Make it make sense. I will! I know what it feels like to be overweight. Society is not kind to overweight people. Be it, family or strangers, folks feel they have the right to give unsolicited "advice" or say the cruelest things to overweight people. I have, throughout my lifetime, experienced both.  So by the...

"Stay strong and remember that you are loved." Or be weak and know that you are loved. Cry and know that you are loved.  Be wrong and know that you are loved. And if you have a good friend that speaks the truth to you, straight, no chaser, you really are loved.  The big question is: Do you see the love around you?  Have you ever taken the time to think back and realize that you were never alone?  Those people were placed in your life to love you. The Love is There... We are wired to love. It is our greatest asset as humans. Embrace it! It doesn't make you weak to want love. Wherever love finds you, accept it.  Open yourself to it. I am not talking about romantic love! But...Okay.  This can apply. But this goes so much deeper than that. The love you feel for yourself will be the love you attract. From everyone.  "Love yourself as much as you want to be loved" We focus so much on who doesn't love us, that we miss all who  do . We also ...

This is more of a list of things to make life happier than a blog. Sometimes there are situations and circumstance that can and will make life difficult. I won't argue that because I know it to be true.  We might not at that moment, have the power to change our circumstances but we can change how we deal! Even now, some of you reading this might be going through some hard times. Financial difficulties, health issues(mental or physical), Family crisis, etc. Most of us have been there and will probably be there again. How do you deal with your anxiety? Do you overcome? Or do you succumb? I am going to sound like a broken record(I am okay with you saying so)but attitude IS everything. Years ago I created a BE list. This is my list to help me keep and maintain a better outlook on life, a reminder per-say. When we get caught up in the every day of It, IT being life, we can forget that we are surrounded by things to be grateful to and for. Here is my helper to you. Remember to BE: Aware ...

The greatest love of all is the love you feel for yourself. How many times have we all heard this? There have even been songs written. But how many feel it? My Mama used to say: "If you can't love yourself, you won't and can't love anyone else." It took me some years and mistakes to figure out that that Lady was right(I'm still mad about that!)  I am not discussing the vapid love of self; that outer self. This is the love of all of You. Those bad moods, weird, random thoughts that crack you up, those big hips that "Beauty" magazines tell you aren't right and that nose! Do you love it all? Are you comfortable just sitting and being with yourself? With no criticism? Love is: Waking up in the morning, looking in the mirror and loving all that you see; bags and all. Love is: Knowing when you have made mistakes, owning them , so that you can move on. Love is: Asking those that you have hurt for forgiveness, so that you can forgive yoursel...

I won't tell a lie, I have a tendency to say things that make people angry with me. I have a tendency to speak the Truth as it appears to me; not only to other people( that ask my opinion) but to myself as well. Believe me! I am NOT exempt from my own thoughts and opinions. It isn't judgement, because I don't have that type of power( if you read my blogs, you know my thoughts on judgement). But it IS bald faced Truth. I am bringing this up because of what is said to me by women AND men in relationships. They ask me my opinion about this or that in their relationships and then are offended when they get my answer! Why did you ask? Are we so used to being lied to that when we hear the truth...we become offended? I just turned 48 and so I don't really have time for bullshit; please excuse the language in this blog! But really, I have one foot in the grave! Who has time for mendacity? Here are my "Rules" and thoughts on relationships: 1.Whatever you say to me, you...