Loving you
"Learn to love yourself, so that you may focus on loving another."
Anon
I love a good quote and this is one of many that I love. Why? It is so true. How many of us, man or woman, have tried and failed at relationships because we had no self-love? my hand is up and waving! If you think about it, it makes perfect sense, we just don't like to own it. I also dislike the fact that my mother used to say this to me a lot "If you can't love yourself, you can't love anyone else." Quote, end quote. Okay, so she was right..kinda. I know what you are saying, " I have loved plenty of people and maybe not have cared for myself all that much" and I will agree, so did I, but did it last? I can only speak for myself, no, none of the relationship's lasted, because I didn't have a good relationship with me. The key word in the quote above is Focus. We, as women, tend to focus more on others: children, men, job, education, etc. than ourselves. Everything else just seems easier, doesn't it? Men tend to focus on the job. That is how one of my male clients described it to me, go to sleep, work, eat, shower, repeat, how sad! He considered coming to Train with me a break from the monotony. That is even more sad! When I asked was there anything he did for himself, anything fun? His response was that everything is done for the financial/emotional stability of his family. I responded by asking was his misery for his family as well? No response. I get it though, for those of us with kids and spouses/girlfriends/boyfriends, they will come first, because we do love them. But how much deeper and healthier that love can be when we love ourselves? Then we can give our children the tools to love themselves! When one is in love with self, all possibilities are open, confidence is boosted, a failure is not the end of the world, but a tool to be used for future successes. When we focus on loving who we are, in our intimate relationship's we choose not to tolerate behaviors that will harm us emotionally or physically. Look around you,think back, how often have you seen or heard people, that are supposed to love each other mind you, be so horrible to each other that you wonder how can they say they love each other? The real question is: How can they love themselves and still behave that way? Self-Love doesn't tolerate things like this, get that mess out of here! It doesn't by any means make us perfect, but it is the closest thing we have to it. Focus, lift your standards, learn and love who you are, learn tolerance with boundaries( I call this feeding certain people with a long handled spoon) learn your flaws and accept them! Know your worth and don't go looking for it in others or you will always be disappointed; mostly in yourself. This is your homework for the week. Start now. Wishing you Peace and Love, but mostly Peace.
P.S
Let me know how it goes....
Anon
I love a good quote and this is one of many that I love. Why? It is so true. How many of us, man or woman, have tried and failed at relationships because we had no self-love? my hand is up and waving! If you think about it, it makes perfect sense, we just don't like to own it. I also dislike the fact that my mother used to say this to me a lot "If you can't love yourself, you can't love anyone else." Quote, end quote. Okay, so she was right..kinda. I know what you are saying, " I have loved plenty of people and maybe not have cared for myself all that much" and I will agree, so did I, but did it last? I can only speak for myself, no, none of the relationship's lasted, because I didn't have a good relationship with me. The key word in the quote above is Focus. We, as women, tend to focus more on others: children, men, job, education, etc. than ourselves. Everything else just seems easier, doesn't it? Men tend to focus on the job. That is how one of my male clients described it to me, go to sleep, work, eat, shower, repeat, how sad! He considered coming to Train with me a break from the monotony. That is even more sad! When I asked was there anything he did for himself, anything fun? His response was that everything is done for the financial/emotional stability of his family. I responded by asking was his misery for his family as well? No response. I get it though, for those of us with kids and spouses/girlfriends/boyfriends, they will come first, because we do love them. But how much deeper and healthier that love can be when we love ourselves? Then we can give our children the tools to love themselves! When one is in love with self, all possibilities are open, confidence is boosted, a failure is not the end of the world, but a tool to be used for future successes. When we focus on loving who we are, in our intimate relationship's we choose not to tolerate behaviors that will harm us emotionally or physically. Look around you,think back, how often have you seen or heard people, that are supposed to love each other mind you, be so horrible to each other that you wonder how can they say they love each other? The real question is: How can they love themselves and still behave that way? Self-Love doesn't tolerate things like this, get that mess out of here! It doesn't by any means make us perfect, but it is the closest thing we have to it. Focus, lift your standards, learn and love who you are, learn tolerance with boundaries( I call this feeding certain people with a long handled spoon) learn your flaws and accept them! Know your worth and don't go looking for it in others or you will always be disappointed; mostly in yourself. This is your homework for the week. Start now. Wishing you Peace and Love, but mostly Peace.
P.S
Let me know how it goes....
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