Body Soiree

  "Do you want to be famous? Or infamous?" Obviously, I was very naive. I didn't know that so much sex went on at the gym. Especially between Personal Trainers and their clients. The number is higher than I thought, and so is the risk. I am clutching my invisible pearls.  Why?  If you are a Trainer and you are asking me why? We have some work to do.  Let's go: Watch Your Brand! 1. It is unethical. We won't even get into the moral aspect of this(for those that have them.) We are focusing on the money. Do we not like making money? Do you think if you get caught diddling Daddy or Mama Warbucks wife,  daughter, or son, they might be a bit peeved?  They tell a friend, and the friend tells a friend. See where this goes? Now you are the infamous Diddling PT. That money train crashes and burns.  2. Integrity-less Bear with me for a moment. Sometimes, we train people that are in bad places mentally. Divorce, strained marriage, I could go on. You, th...

"Stay strong and remember that you are loved." Or be weak and know that you are loved. Cry and know that you are loved.  Be wrong and know that you are loved. And if you have a good friend that speaks the truth to you, straight, no chaser, you really are loved.  The big question is: Do you see the love around you?  Have you ever taken the time to think back and realize that you were never alone?  Those people were placed in your life to love you. The Love is There... We are wired to love. It is our greatest asset as humans. Embrace it! It doesn't make you weak to want love. Wherever love finds you, accept it.  Open yourself to it. I am not talking about romantic love! But...Okay.  This can apply. But this goes so much deeper than that. The love you feel for yourself will be the love you attract. From everyone.  "Love yourself as much as you want to be loved" We focus so much on who doesn't love us, that we miss all who  do . We also ...

"Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds!"   Marcus Garvey Colorism Colorism is seen around the World. African-American's aren't the creators of this sickness, but some of us are willing participants in the spreading of this illness, so there's that. I can only write about this from the standpoint of an African-American Woman...it's what I am.  I won't get into how colorism began, that's too long a history. Nor will I discuss who helps this sickness along. Why? Because they are sick! And I won't give them any attention on my, small that it may be, platform. This Blog is a loving preventative! not a finger pointer. I love being Black. I always have. I, like most African-Americans, come from a family that is diverse in our "shading." Meaning we have the very, very light to the very, very dark on both sides, paternal and maternal. It wasn't a "thing" in my families. We, a...

 "In learning, you will teach, and in teaching, you will learn." Phil Collins It's wonderful doing what you love to do for a living. It is exciting and fulfilling. You know what's even better? Knowing that you don't know everything and being willing to ask for guidance. This is what we call "Emotional maturity." I can't express how much confidence you will gain, in any profession, when you ask for help from someone you feel is top tier in your field. None of us knows it all and asking for help doesn't mean you don't know anything, it means that you are willing to learn. I speak from experience and ditches stepped over because I listened. Let me explain.  "You cannot teach a man anything. You can only help him discover it within himself." Galileo Galilei I knew nothing about Personal Training.  All I knew was that I loved to exercise and I was great at sweating. But man! I loved it! I was one of three Registrars at the lo...

  "Sometimes I can't figure out if I'm in preschool or high school. Oh, wait...I'm at work."  Unknown When it gets this bad on the job, it's time to reassess. I am not talking about walking out. I am talking about what you are allowing yourself to get involved in. I have had many jobs. Some I really liked and others I stayed because I had mouths to feed. When I became a Personal Trainer, I knew it was what I was meant to do. Personal Training brings me joy and satisfaction at the end of my day. I loved working in different gyms with all of these various personalities...so I dropped my "Beware of gossip and mess" radar! You would think that people would be too busy sweating. But what I have learned about Human Beings is that we seem to always have time to gossip. Go figure? Here is where I made my mistake: I listened.  "Believe nothing of what you hear and only half of what you see." Unknown My first big gig as a Personal Traine...

"I don't think of all the misery but of the beauty that still remains" Anne Frank As I was scrolling on a Social Media site, minding my own business, I noticed a trend, people asking others what they hate. Really? We get one life. One life to love as much as we can. Should hate be our focus? Can you list all of the things you love? Despite all that is going on in your life, negative or positive? Write that list. Talking or writing about all that you hate, brings more of what you hate, to you. Don't believe me? Have you ever had a really bad morning? Where everything went wrong? You woke up late? stubbed your toe? Burnt toast and nasty coffee? And if you keep focusing on these things, your whole day is ruined. But when you change your focus(Hopefully on something positive)your whole day can and WILL change. So it makes me wonder, why would people want to write a list about all that they hate? Why encourage that type of thinking and feeling? I believe it comes down to t...

" There are some things in this world you rely on, like a sure bet. And when they let you down, shifting from where you've carefully placed them, it shakes your faith, right where you stand." S. Dessen I thought I had shed all of my expectations. I really thought I had stopped expecting things from people...I lied. And I can't tell you how vexed I am about this(I love that word vexed!). I don't believe my expectations were high, but I still had them. I don't ask nor expect smiles from people every day. I don't expect money or kind words from strangers. Heck, I don't even expect that from family. But, I do expect Decency, with a capital D. Did you just say that's even asking too much? Why? Why is it that we, as Human Beings, can't expect people to be decent? I didn't say kind; Decent. There is a difference. I will use this as an example, picture this: You are walking into the grocery store and someone is walking in front of you. They get ...