Body Soiree

Interesting conversation's going on! I think that some(a lot!) of our girls have lost their way. They watch these "reality" t.v shows and think that is the norm...but DON'T be fooled Ladies! I am around Men all day, I grew up around a lot of Men, my Bestest Friends are Men and there is one thing that regardless of ethnicity, they will all agree on: The foul mouthed, uncouth, Bus Down" girl NEVER gets to meet Mama. Don't believe the hype that  you read in People and those other rags! Don't believe the hype of these shows, and I don't care how many they get. Because yes! You Can get a Man(Who can't?) but it is the QUALITY of Man you are getting that counts. So here is my quote for you: Here's a lesson for every single girl out there: Never, ever settle. You may think you aren't gorgeous, smart and have too many insecurities too count. But there is going to be someone in the world who truly loves you for you. Don't ever think that you...

In order to enter the "Land of Change with All Things Possible" an open mind is required. What do I mean by that? We have all heard the saying "A closed mind is like a fist, nothing gets in" and when I say nothing; I mean nothing.  Have you ever tried to talk to a person like this? Frustrating, isn't it? There is nothing positive, there is no motivation, there is no light being allowed in the all the dark places! I say "It sure is a beautiful day out!" They respond "Yeah, but later it will probably rain." (insert eye roll) I say: "What a nice family they are." They respond: "I hear there is a lot of mental illness in that family." WHAT!? 1. How do you even know this!? 2.Why is that something you would repeat even if it is true!? Do you get my point here? With people like this there is a tendency to be closed to good things, as if feeling good is a felony and they are the police! No ONE on MY watch will feel Happy DANG IT! ...

I won't tell a lie, I have a tendency to say things that make people angry with me. I have a tendency to speak the Truth as it appears to me; not only to other people( that ask my opinion) but to myself as well. Believe me! I am NOT exempt from my own thoughts and opinions. It isn't judgement, because I don't have that type of power( if you read my blogs, you know my thoughts on judgement). But it IS bald faced Truth. I am bringing this up because of what is said to me by women AND men in relationships. They ask me my opinion about this or that in their relationships and then are offended when they get my answer! Why did you ask? Are we so used to being lied to that when we hear the truth...we become offended? I just turned 48 and so I don't really have time for bullshit; please excuse the language in this blog! But really, I have one foot in the grave! Who has time for mendacity? Here are my "Rules" and thoughts on relationships: 1.Whatever you say to me, you...

I have always said how much I don't like the word Challenge or how people will try to make everything a challenge. I don't like weight loss challenges, squat challenges(really?! you don't like your knees or your back much.) or don't drink wine for a month challenge( this one is just down right evil). But I realized that every day that I get up, I am and have been challenging myself to do something new or something that takes me out of my comfort zone: This has always been my Challenge. Talk to someone new, smile and speak to strangers, get out of my own head. Most people don't understand how hard this can be for some of us, when you would rather be reading with a cup of coffee. They tend to think I am full of it when I say it is hard for me, seeing the profession I am in. Just because we can do certain things, doesn't mean it is easy, right? So, when I wake up most mornings, I do try and set a goal for the day, albeit small(some days the big goals are just too b...

I heard a story the other day that made my hair stand on end(that says a lot seeing that my hair stands on end anyway!) My hair on end and anger growing, I listened to this story told to me from a young lady that I have known for some time regarding how she was hurt by a Personal Trainer. Hurt how? I asked.  She responded by telling me this Trainer's training style: If you say the exercise is hurting you, they respond by saying "PUSH THROUGH!" You say it is really hurting your back, they say "NO PAIN! NO GAIN!" Really? She told me a few more things that were upsetting and I apologized to her for all of us Trainers that try and leave our ego's at the door. Here is the deal everyone, and I need you to remember this: Exercise, though sometimes difficult to get through, is done to make you feel better! Hiring a Personal Trainer is a smart and honest move for people that understand they aren't going to go the distance on their own. So I wonder: Why hire some...

“You were born with potential.  You were born with goodness and trust. You were born with ideals and dreams. You were born with greatness.  You were born with wings.  You are not meant for crawling, so don't.  You have wings.  Learn to use them and fly.”  ―  Rumi    I love asking my kids, friends and Clients to list all of the reasons they are great. What I, and you will notice, if you do this little test, is that people get so shy about talking about what they love about themselves. As if saying that you think you are wonderful is a sin, and maybe for some that is how they were raised. To praise oneself is a form of arrogance and conceit? But those two words have nothing to do with True love for yourself, so don't worry! Arrogance and conceit usually comes from insecurity anyway and today we choose not to be insecure. Today is the day we stop with self-deprecation! Today is the day that we embrace, kiss, and enjoy who we are! This is a lo...