Body Soiree

I won't tell a lie, I have a tendency to say things that make people angry with me. I have a tendency to speak the Truth as it appears to me; not only to other people( that ask my opinion) but to myself as well. Believe me! I am NOT exempt from my own thoughts and opinions. It isn't judgement, because I don't have that type of power( if you read my blogs, you know my thoughts on judgement). But it IS bald faced Truth. I am bringing this up because of what is said to me by women AND men in relationships. They ask me my opinion about this or that in their relationships and then are offended when they get my answer! Why did you ask? Are we so used to being lied to that when we hear the truth...we become offended? I just turned 48 and so I don't really have time for bullshit; please excuse the language in this blog! But really, I have one foot in the grave! Who has time for mendacity? Here are my "Rules" and thoughts on relationships: 1.Whatever you say to me, you...

I have always said how much I don't like the word Challenge or how people will try to make everything a challenge. I don't like weight loss challenges, squat challenges(really?! you don't like your knees or your back much.) or don't drink wine for a month challenge( this one is just down right evil). But I realized that every day that I get up, I am and have been challenging myself to do something new or something that takes me out of my comfort zone: This has always been my Challenge. Talk to someone new, smile and speak to strangers, get out of my own head. Most people don't understand how hard this can be for some of us, when you would rather be reading with a cup of coffee. They tend to think I am full of it when I say it is hard for me, seeing the profession I am in. Just because we can do certain things, doesn't mean it is easy, right? So, when I wake up most mornings, I do try and set a goal for the day, albeit small(some days the big goals are just too b...

I heard a story the other day that made my hair stand on end(that says a lot seeing that my hair stands on end anyway!) My hair on end and anger growing, I listened to this story told to me from a young lady that I have known for some time regarding how she was hurt by a Personal Trainer. Hurt how? I asked.  She responded by telling me this Trainer's training style: If you say the exercise is hurting you, they respond by saying "PUSH THROUGH!" You say it is really hurting your back, they say "NO PAIN! NO GAIN!" Really? She told me a few more things that were upsetting and I apologized to her for all of us Trainers that try and leave our ego's at the door. Here is the deal everyone, and I need you to remember this: Exercise, though sometimes difficult to get through, is done to make you feel better! Hiring a Personal Trainer is a smart and honest move for people that understand they aren't going to go the distance on their own. So I wonder: Why hire some...

“You were born with potential.  You were born with goodness and trust. You were born with ideals and dreams. You were born with greatness.  You were born with wings.  You are not meant for crawling, so don't.  You have wings.  Learn to use them and fly.”  ―  Rumi    I love asking my kids, friends and Clients to list all of the reasons they are great. What I, and you will notice, if you do this little test, is that people get so shy about talking about what they love about themselves. As if saying that you think you are wonderful is a sin, and maybe for some that is how they were raised. To praise oneself is a form of arrogance and conceit? But those two words have nothing to do with True love for yourself, so don't worry! Arrogance and conceit usually comes from insecurity anyway and today we choose not to be insecure. Today is the day we stop with self-deprecation! Today is the day that we embrace, kiss, and enjoy who we are! This is a lo...

I say something to my Personal Training clients that I always said to myself and still do: "Don't make this whole weight loss thing bigger than what it is(excuse the pun). In fact, don't make most things going on in your life bigger than you! Put everything that is going on in your life in the correct place and order; from the issues that are out of your control to what can be done right now to make your life better. No one can tell you what is the most important issue, because what might be a problem for me, might seem like a non-issue to you, and this is why you have to sit quietly and go over your priority list. I try not to say write a "Problem List" I use the word priority instead; it is way more positive and why turn it negative if we don't have to? So, sit and write your priority list, once you have finished, look and see what is number 1, is it your health?  9 out of 10 times, for most of us, it isn't. The list usually goes like this: 1. Pay car/h...

No one, when I was a kid, ever called depression, depression. Did we even know that word existed in the eighties?  It was referred to as "being blue" or "having a case of the blues." I didn't know that word, depression, until I got older and it became the "it" word for everything. Oh, he isn't talking today, he must be depressed! She has been a bit standoffish and quiet; must be depression! Regular folks became mini psychiatrists and got on everyone's nerves with their two bit analysis of your bad day or week. I can only speak from my truth, which I always try to do and it is not easy. Why? Because you don't want people to know when you are in a depression. How can you explain what you are feeling? I almost feel ashamed, being my worst judge and critic, as if I caused it in some way. How can I speak about positive thinking, exercising and being emotionally and spiritually healthy when I am struggling just getting out of my bed? I went again...