Love Is....

The greatest love of all is the love you feel for yourself. How many times have we all heard this? There have even been songs written. But how many feel it? My Mama used to say: "If you can't love yourself, you won't and can't love anyone else." It took me some years and mistakes to figure out that that Lady was right(I'm still mad about that!)  I am not discussing the vapid love of self; that outer self. This is the love of all of You. Those bad moods, weird, random thoughts that crack you up, those big hips that "Beauty" magazines tell you aren't right and that nose! Do you love it all? Are you comfortable just sitting and being with yourself? With no criticism? Love is: Waking up in the morning, looking in the mirror and loving all that you see; bags and all. Love is: Knowing when you have made mistakes, owning them, so that you can move on. Love is: Asking those that you have hurt for forgiveness, so that you can forgive yourself.. and move on. Love is: Knowing your worth and letting everyone else know it. Love is: Letting go of the past. Why are looking back there!? What is in your past that you can change? And why are you wasting precious time? Which is the segue for my next question: Why are you procrastinating? Procrastination is just another way to not love yourself. I don't even debate this anymore. Think about it: You procrastinate and get nothing done. Then you use whatever situation you got yourself into to not do what you were supposed to do! From there, we blame everything and everyone in our past and present for why we aren't where we should be, professionally, mentally, and physically. It will become the never ending story. Going through this is painful. Because when we procrastinate, if you are true to yourself, you know exactly what you are doing and how you are sabotaging yourself. That is a lack of love for self. Now back to what love is: Love is: Surrounding yourself with positive people. Positive people bring about positive situations! I can not say that enough. Here is my "short" list :) of what Love is for me. Love is: Good food, good relationships, good wine, Great books! good music, being happy as much as possible, honesty, exercise and always being aware of who I am. Simple, right? I have been down and low people, as I am sure a lot of you have. Despair and depression are a scary thing, I know. But you can pull yourself up and out of them both. Becoming self aware and having love for self takes work and effort. Love is being willing to do the work and creating the life you know you were meant to live. Aren't you worth that? Love is: You. 

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  1. UnknownAugust 3, 2016 at 9:49 AM

    So very true you know what they say before you can really love someone you need to love yourself some people saying it's a song but truth you need to do what's right for you work on yourself we all do I'm guilty of it I think it also plays along with procrastination too

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