Please Don't Be Offended!

I won't tell a lie, I have a tendency to say things that make people angry with me. I have a tendency to speak the Truth as it appears to me; not only to other people( that ask my opinion) but to myself as well. Believe me! I am NOT exempt from my own thoughts and opinions. It isn't judgement, because I don't have that type of power( if you read my blogs, you know my thoughts on judgement). But it IS bald faced Truth. I am bringing this up because of what is said to me by women AND men in relationships. They ask me my opinion about this or that in their relationships and then are offended when they get my answer! Why did you ask? Are we so used to being lied to that when we hear the truth...we become offended? I just turned 48 and so I don't really have time for bullshit; please excuse the language in this blog! But really, I have one foot in the grave! Who has time for mendacity? Here are my "Rules" and thoughts on relationships: 1.Whatever you say to me, you better have already said to your partner! 2. Lie down with dogs(and you KNEW He/or She was a dog!) get up with an STD, a baby and DRAMA! The Baby being the best thing out of that. 3.If you have to ask if they are cheating, you already know that they are. 4.They showed you who they were when you got with them; why are you acting surprised when they behave badly? That didn't happen overnight. 5.If you are miserable in a marriage, do what it takes to keep it together, if you want it. If not; stop making each other( and probably your kids)miserable. Life is short. 6.Shacking up is a waste of time. Admit that you really DON'T want to be committed. 7. If you are going to stay, stop complaining about your wife/husband to other people! it is disloyal and wrong! This is the person that YOU chose. With ALL of their imperfections, they are your partner. 8. Learn how to love the person you are with! When they do well, meet them at the door with biscuits and a blow job. When they do bad and screw stuff up; call them out on it! Don't tell everyone else. Once again: Disloyalty. 9. Own what YOU do. Stop pointing a finger, because believe it or not; it really DOES take two to mess things up. And my last and most favorite: 10.Stop blowing things out of proportion and pick your battles! Him leaving the toilet seat up really bother you that badly? if so; get a life. Her calling to check up on you really make you feel like a child? If so; leave. Then let's see if ANYONE cares about your selfish ass. Life is short; Love hard. Be honest with the ones that you hold dear. Work on what needs to be worked on and be happy! As my G-Ma(Grandmother) would say: Fuck the Bullshit. Wishing you Peace and Love, but mostly Peace. 

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